Well, don't feel too bad, the internet constantly preserves my embarrassing shit and it's not just a phase for me. All I remember about that issue was that there was a religious undertone and stuff about how you can't use violence to confront violence at shows, using the above mentioned thing as an example. I had two other friends of mine at that show who were pissed about what I did. They came up to me and told me how I was no better than him for throwing him out. The thing is, Tom used to tell me stuff like "one thing I like about putting on hardcore shows is I don't have to spend money on security, because you guys police your scene yourselves."
Back in the day, when I was a pacifist, I used to go up to people being violent at shows and I would give them hugs and tell them "It's about fun, not violence." The last time I did that, dude attacked me.
I have no problem with people choosing their battles, but every time something like this happens and people get all upset cause a dude hit a woman I think about how patronizing it is to punk chicks everywhere. I'm sure either of these chicks could have fucked dude up bad if people weren't running around like chickens with their heads cut off. Trust me, I'm a big guy and I've gotten fucked up by women a few times. Women aren't inherently helpless creatures, they're just trained to be that way by people who have some idealized vision of women.