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[swastikat]

so would you some of you guys seriously dismiss a girlfriend/boyfriend based soley on their taste in music?  was that a sub-issue in the first post?  i'm confused

[SSR]

while some of these guys might say yes, i dont think that they can afford to be picky, at least not if they want to get laid on a yearly basis.

[april n]

i've realized that if you don't have music in common, you're not gonna have a lot in common. 

[SSR]

really? not me. at least, i carry on quite well if the person doesnt like the same kind of music i do. i carry on quite well if they say like film or dance more than music. i'd say it is  harder if food likes are wildly different. or if they drink heavy and i dont or vica versa.

[bazooka joe]

girls that can't get into shows yet DO NOT COUNT! When you're old enough you'll get into make-up and purses and your show days will be OVER.

[april n]

actually there's a guy i date sometimes right now that has a great record collection, but he doesn't drink.  i've realized lately that it kinda bothers me.....he doesn't care if i drink around him, but i feel a little awkward. 

i've dated some vegetarians, and it can be a little annoying cuz we can't go out for bbq....other than that it doesn't really bother me. 

i've been on dates with guys who weren't into punk and in those particular situations i just didn't feel like we had much to talk about.  i'm sure there's someone out there though.....

[ZombieAppetizer]

My girlfriend absolutely hates going to shows and despises 99% of what I listen to but I've had a little progress as of late, turned her onto M.O.T.O. (she thought it was They Might Be Giants, yeah I know, shut up), and some old powerpop stuff.  But when it comes to going to shows, who cares? Sure, it would be amazing if she was as crazed about music as I was, but I've accepted that that's just not gonna happen. I go with my friends or just go alone since most of them like shitty crust and d-beat.  It's sad that some people on here would sever a relationship based soley on different music tastes.  She puts up with my obsessive record collecting and I put up with her obsessive collecting of Hello Kitty and Safora (Saphora?) makeup.  It's give and take people.  I think this has degenerated into shear jealously over the penis to vagina ratio...

[ZombieAppetizer]

To all the girls on here:

Are most of your female friends all into the same stuff as you, as far as being obsessed with records, finding new bands, going to shows, etc.??

Because in my personal experience my group of friends (the "punk" ones) have consisted almost exclusively of guys with a few token girls who are just as nerdy as us but somehow the girls never get along?  Go figure.

[swastikat]

great point about the girls not getting along.  i've noticed such things as well.

i think not dating someone specifically because of what they listen to is stupid.  you can have PLENTY in common and not have identlical interests, if anything it makes it more interesting.  the yin and yang people, it's what makes life whole.  and thank goddess for that.

besides, isn't it more about candlelit dinners and warm snuggley movies and wine and roses?  maybe you should ask the gal to do that, clint, instead of "hey, wanna see white savage?"

[howard beale]

i cant even imagine being with somebody who doesnt like the same music as me.  the only way that would work is if they didnt like music at all because i am sure as hell not gonna listen to music i dont like half the time.

[SSR]

yeah, yeah...but, Officer Brad, you have pretty diverse music tastes so that leaves a lot of options. my girlfriend like indie pop, some 60s stuff, nick drake, that kind of stuff. all of it doesnt mesh with my tastes, but that is fine. there is enough stuff that we are both into that makes it cool. we go see music together from time to time and sometimes we dont go together. that is fine. i love here dearly but i dont want to be around her 25/7 and she doesnt want me around that much. anyways, music is just one fraction of our lives together. it is much more important to me that we can sit in the same room for long stretches and not have to fill the air with talk. or that i feel she has my back always. that we can travel together and have a blast. that we can make fun out of shitty situations. that our sense of humor meshes.  that said, if she was a kenny chesney or cheryl crow fan, it wouldnt work...but that has less to do with music and more to do with the fact that i dont date retarded people.

[april n]

if she was a kenny chesney or cheryl crow fan, it wouldnt work...but that has less to do with music and more to do with the fact that i dont date retarded people.

haha yeah that's what i actually meant....i dunno though....i kinda liked this guy who was into indie rock earlier this year and it really bugged me when i'd bring up punk bands from his town and he'd never heard of them. 

To all the girls on here:

Are most of your female friends all into the same stuff as you, as far as being obsessed with records, finding new bands, going to shows, etc.??

Because in my personal experience my group of friends (the "punk" ones) have consisted almost exclusively of guys with a few token girls who are just as nerdy as us but somehow the girls never get along?  Go figure.

i have almost always hung out with boys....that being said, i have met some awesome girls in memphis!  this is the first time in my life where i know really cool girls that are into good music.  it's pretty awesome.

[Shaun A]

I can never go out with big film freaks. Mainly cos I hate having to keep still or quiet while a film's on. And trying to read subtitles while drinking is a real pain in the ass. I did watch Frankenhooker with my girlfriend the other night but we were playing singles and drinking and shouting the whole way through it.

[Dulcinea]

To all the girls on here:

Are most of your female friends all into the same stuff as you, as far as being obsessed with records, finding new bands, going to shows, etc.??

Because in my personal experience my group of friends (the "punk" ones) have consisted almost exclusively of guys with a few token girls who are just as nerdy as us but somehow the girls never get along?  Go figure.

First, I find it hard pressed to even find dudes who go to/ have gone to as many shows as me and some of my girlfriends. In general, we are thick as thieves. Sure you are gonna have a few scuffles along the way cos' so and so fucked so and so's ex etc. but in what circles doesn't that happen? As far as shows it depends on the kind of music your talking about, but in general I think there's more girls out than ever now, and I grew up in the female minority of punk, hardcore and garage shows. The mother lode was that power pop fest. Man, that place was littered with strange wool probably the most I've seen in a long time. I have found though that even girls I meet outside of music like through work etc. just need a mixed cd or two and they end up coming out, checking out bands, and dj nights. It's just getting the right folks exposed to the good shit....

[miss_x]

so would you some of you guys seriously dismiss a girlfriend/boyfriend based soley on their taste in music?  was that a sub-issue in the first post?  i'm confused

i try NOT to do this, but i find that it usually becomes a problem as time goes on. with my ex, he was very receptive to bands i would introduce him to and almost always ended up liking them. but when it came down to the things he was into, 50% was decent and 50% was just embarassing. this can lead to some embarassing situations (like when he wanted to help me dj..i wont even get into the things i told him he could not/should not play). so then it turns into me getting embarassed/annoyed, him getting offended, both of us feeling shitty...

on the rare occasion that i was in a relationship with someone who actually liked the things i did musically and knew what i was talking about (and could turn ME onto new things, instead of just me doing it all the time), i found that i was much happier. not saying this is the case for everyone, obviously.

but then again, i don't dispute the fact that i'm a nerd in this respect.